Day One Hundred Twenty-Five

Day One Hundred Twenty-Four

I don't know that anybody is managing to have a great day lately. Every day has a layer of sucktacular spread over the sucktastic and dipped in suckola. There's no point in denying it. Facts and stuff.

That said, I am still making it a point to try to find something positive to take with me each and every day. Basically, I'm trying to be more like Mila. She is so very focused on what makes her happy that she generally throws a tantrum when something doesn't, but then moves on. Like, she's over it in a snap. It's pretty impressive.

I want to be Mila when I grow up.

In the spirit of being more like her, here's my "what went well today" list:

1. Mila had a friend over today because there is exactly one of her friends whose parent is taking ~this~ as seriously as I am. Accordingly, we've slightly expanded our quarantine group to include that friend. The two six-year-olds together is always freakin' adorable, but ending them together is a nightmare. They both throw fits and make life very difficult. Thus, I bribed them into being okay with their play date ending by letting them sit together in the passenger seat of my car while I drove the friend back to her house, a whopping 200 ystfd away. It's worth noting that we're in an isolated neighborhood, so the odds of seeing another car are real low. The odds of me driving faster than 10 mph in the neighborhood are even lower. So, legit, it was like rolling down the driveway. The friend could have walked home faster.

They thought it was SO COOL OMG.

I love that this age can be so easily charmed by something so simple.

2. My work stuff went well today. There's a lot of chaos happening in that world as well, so a smooth day is a good day.

3. There were no swimming bats in our pool today. DEFINITE WIN.

4. The weekend was spent completing the worst yard project of all time - replacing the pond liner. While that project is the sort of thing I will have nightmares about for years to come, the pond is starting to come back together. It looks ... good. And! For the first time in two years, it doesn't leak. Amazing what happens when you fix problems the right way!

5. Alexis made cookies today. She's the best.

6. I'm normally travelling internationally this week. In fact, I would be somewhere in Asia right now, if not for COVID-19. That means I didn't have to take a 20-hour flight. WIN.

7. It's almost Friday. Let's just sit and enjoy that fact for a moment, mmkay?

8. It rained enough today that I didn't have to water the garden. Yay!

9. Mila slept until 10:00 this morning. I didn't know she was capable of that sort of magic, but it certainly was a part of the reason my first big presentation of the morning went smoothly. It's super helpful when you don't have a little girl who comes running into the room while you're speaking to declare, "I need new underwear!"

10. I somehow managed to come up with 9 whole things that were better than okay today, even though it was a rough day overall. That in and of itself definitely counts as a 10th good thing.

Day One Hundred Twenty-Three

Because the ship has sailed and I have taken matters into my own hands, I can say with confidence that my children will not be setting foot inside a school building this fall. I have the extreme privilege of being able to make that decision even as I work full-time, so I've decided to be done with waiting for school officials to plan accordingly.

For what it's worth, my personal opinion is that school officials should have been planning for remote learning for months now and should be fully prepared to leverage it in a way that is effective. They haven't, though, because I guess if you stand around and just sort of wish real hard, a global pandemic will go away? Let's all wish real hard tonight, mmkay? Because, seriously, that would be amazing.

ANYWAY. Since I know they won't be going inside a school building, I've been looking for things we can do in the world while remaining safe. I have to keep Mila from turning full feral, y'know? And they both need to see more than the walls in this house once in a while. We've been testing out places after I carefully review their COVID-19 precautions with the understanding that if I say we're bailing, we're bailing. I know a ton of other people are in the same place, so here's what I've figured out so far. Please to be commenting or tweeting or whatever with your own observations. It's good to broaden our prospects.

Hiking: A+

Pretty much everywhere we've gone has been a win, with the exception of the more popular parts of the Montour Trail. I generally don't want to remind the girls to socially distance nor do I want them to feel like they should panic if they run into a large group, so we just avoid large groups. It's pretty easy to do because if the parking lot near the trail entrance is full, so is the trail. Move on to the next one.

For what it's worth, our current favorite trails are at Raccoon Creek State Park. There's a ton of choices and each one is a good one. Mila is obsessed with the cabin along the wildflower trails and we've always been big fans of Frankfort Springs. We avoid Saturdays because it can be more crowded, but otherwise it's been a win every time.

Phipps Conservatory: A

We have a membership, so this one feels like it's "free." Even with a membership, it's required to reserve a time slot/tickets in advance. Phipps is very strictly enforcing capacity limits, and their capacity limits are lower than I would have guessed they would be. Mask-wearing is also enforced and I have heard employees remind guests to wear their masks. We've gone three times in the past few months - all on Fridays. Each time we maybe saw two or three people, not counting employees.

The only reason they don't get an A+ is that the entrance can be a little bit congested, and by that I mean there might be three employees plus those two other guests plus your group all near the door. Also, there's construction going on so our favorite room is currently closed. It'll be worth it in the end, but it's still sadness now.

National Aviary: A-

Same deal. Timed entry. They're enforcing capacity limits. Employees are being diligent. Guests are respectful of one another. I only rank Phipps higher because it has more big open spaces.

Malls: Pshaw. As if.

We haven't stepped foot inside a mall since March and won't be anytime soon. But! We have visited Tanger Outlets in Washington County. I would give it a B-. Outlets, of course, mean lots of outdoor space when you're walking between stores. There are signs on the entry to every single store indicating that masks are required and that the capacity limit is reduced. It seems that the capacity limits are being enforced - Bath and Body Works for sure is keeping an employee at the entrance and counting who is inside versus outside. Also, I can say for certain that Gap Outlet employees there are stopping people at the door who don't have a mask and telling them to order online instead of entering the store.

That's my measure of "success," I guess. A willingness to enforce safety measures. I can make sure the two monsters I'm responsible for wear masks and maintain a distance, but if other people aren't being respectful, we bail.

And that brings us to ...

Pittsburgh Zoo: F

We also have a membership there, and on the surface it seems like one of the safest places to go. It's nearly all outdoors, and you would think that the health and safety of the animals and employees would be a priority.

I don't know quite what to say about that, but it's pretty clear that employees have not been trained to deal with people who aren't following the safety measures. Both times that we've gone, there have been several groups of people walking around without masks. It seems most people put them on when they go inside, but not all. What's more, there's no enforcement of capacity limits. The aquarium was crowded enough both times for me to take a few steps inside and then turn right back around.

Of particular concern was the fact that there was an older couple walking around the primate building the last time I took Mila. They weren't wearing masks and the gentleman was hacking his lungs out. Like, coughing A LOT. Once he did it into his elbow, but mostly he coughed into his hand and ... then touched the rails. He was very obviously not feeling well, but certainly didn't care. Not one single zoo employee asked him to put on a mask (AT MINIMUM - but really, if you're coughing, stay home. Don't bother telling me it's allergies because you don't know that unless you've been tested. STAY HOME.). I will say that we didn't stick around more than maybe two minutes inside the building because the whole scene was so concerning, so maybe someone appeared later and stopped him. Maybe.

The large maskless group, though. There was a group of about 10 that were all together and not a one of them was wearing a mask. They happened to be the type of people who walked up real close to mask-wearers and made a baa'ing sound, and then giggled amongst themselves about how many "dumb sheep" there were walking around the place and panicking. Mila and I left the zoo (and will not return - I need to call and ask for a refund on our membership because OH HELL NO) when they took their act to the central food area and stood around complaining to an employee that they weren't allowed to go inside to order.

There were three zoo employees within the area. All of them saw the group. All of them lacked the training or willingness required to ask them to comply with basic safety requirements. I can't excuse it.

Carnegie Museums: On my list to try

I've heard from friends that the Carnegie Museums are doing a good job, similar to Phipps and the Aviary. The Natural History Museum will probably be our next venture, albeit it not for a few weeks because I'll wait until the girls start to seem to need a break from being home constantly. If you've been there and have thoughts, I'd love to hear them.

Or about anywhere, really. We're all just doing the best we can at this point. Except the anti-maskers. They aren't trying at all.