Wednesday
Apr082015

Balance Doesn't Exist, But Perfection Does

I've come to a conclusion that I'm sure many would argue with, but it's my truth right now: there is no such thing as work/life balance.

There are weeks when I barely see the girls. Work takes over life. I'm lucky if I'm able to grab dinner before 9:00 pm. I'm even luckier if I manage to grab dinner at the same time as the girls.

Other weeks are different. They are a bit more manageable. When I'm having one of those weeks, I often wonder what the "give" is. There is always a "give," you know. Something is suffering if I'm spending more time with the girls. It might be the housework, it might be my career, it's something. definitely something.

Everyone has 24 hours in their day. Working full-time means many of those hours are controlled by other people.

But the hours that I control? Those are the hours that really matter.

And I'm going to keep fighting to use them in the best ways possible.

Tuesday
Apr072015

Some Things Never Seem To Change

You guys, I legit can't figure out if Alexis KNOWS. I feel like she must by now, but she sure doesn't seem to be acting like she KNOWS when she does things like this.

That little letter addressed to the Easter Bunny was her Saturday night project. For what it's worth, there was no scooter. The Easter Bunny is terrible and horrible and doesn't see anything wrong with the Barbie scooter that lives in our garage.

Besides that, the Easter Bunny delivers candy. He doesn't deal with that bikes and such.

So while Alexis seemed to be kissing up to the Bunny with the basket filled with candy, she also (maybe?) Freudian slipped and asked where *I* hid her basket instead of asking if I knew where the Bunny hid it. But was it a slip? It very well might have been an erroneous choice of words based on the way she was seriously worried about whether or not the Bunny would prank her that night.

She KNOWS I will prank her. That doesn't scare her. The Bunny pranking her keeps her up at night, though. And she was up most of the night.

Regardless, following her around as she finds eggs is still hilarious. She's still terrible at looking. She's still not a huge fan of all the candy. I'm still the prime beneficiary when she doesn't want the candy.

But look out. This one has discovered the magic and joy that is sugar and she is so ready to dive in and steal the fun.

Monday
Apr062015

That Friday Wasn't Like the Others

One thing I think about a lot is how to do better. I mean that in every way possible, but I especially mean it when it comes to parenting. To say that my parents failed in many ways is an understatement, but that's no excuse for me and my actions. I need to keep looking for ways to be better, do better, and create better.

Which is all to say, I try to remember to create moments worth remembering. That's one of the best things we can do, you know? I don't think the girls will remember the things I do or don't buy them in ten years (and sometimes the next day), but they will remember the things we do together.

Thus, Friday's spontaneous shenanigans.

Normally when school is out, Alexis would join Mila at daycare. However, our daycare was closed for Good Friday, so I took the day off. It was my first vacation day in a very long time, so it had to get used for something good.

Like a road trip.

To Cleveland.

(Shoosh yinz who haven't figured out that Cleveland is a fun little trip. It is.)

To the zoo.

It really wasn't a big deal. We decided to for sure do it about 9:00 that morning. By 10:00, we were in the car.  A quick two-hour drive there, $11 to get in (it's a LOT less expensive than Pittsburgh's Zoo, plus it's a reciprocal zoo and we have a Pittsburgh membership), and an afternoon of just the girls and me walking around.

By the time we were done, Alexis and I had decided that Pittsburgh's Zoo has a better polar bear exhibit and the penguins' home is WAY better than this thing Cleveland has going on.

But Cleveland wins some points for the much better elephant building, general layout of the whole zoo, and the fact that they have a koala.

So it wasn't anything AMAZING, but it kind of was because any day spent hanging out with those two is amazing.

Hopefully some day they'll look back and think the same thing as they tell someone about that time we just randomly woke up and ran off to another city.